As a practitioner, I really like to help my clients delve into the why behind their health problems, and to explore angles they may not have considered before. The four main pillars of the programs I create for clients are diet, exercise and movement, sleep, and stress.
Stress really wreaks havoc on our health in so many different ways, and it’s one of the foundational areas I help with. Stress can impact our sleep, decrease the function of our immune system, disrupt digestion, mess up our relationships, and leave us feeling anxious, tired, worn out, frazzled, and spent.
What I’ve also noticed, however, is that it can be SO difficult to let go of our habits and patterns that allow a stressful mindset to continue. But to move forward on our healing journeys, we must dial down the stress. This includes reducing or removing hidden infections, like parasites, viruses, or bacterial infections, environmental stresses like mold or toxins, negative people in our life, or dealing with hidden nutritional deficiencies. But it can also mean retraining and reframing our brain and how we respond to our daily life.
Here are some signs that you might need to work on training your brain for calm:
- Even when you are trying to relax, your brain remains busy, thinking about a million things.
- You have difficulty falling or staying asleep, because your mind is busy, or startles easily.
- You lose your temper easily, even from small inputs.
- You are plagued by memories or dreams of scary, traumatic, or stressful events.
- You regularly have negative thinking patterns, where you assume the worst about people, the future, or your current situation.
- You struggle with phobias or non-specific anxiety.
I want to share a few resources for you to explore if you are needing to retrain your brain for calm. Especially if you are a person who is carrying the burden of trauma in your past, I want you to know that there are ways to help your brain and body release those stored memories and process the pain attached to them. You will always have the memories, but it is possible to separate the emotional charge from them, so they don’t run your life anymore.
Emotional Freedom Technique
Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), also called tapping, is a method of helping the brain to discharge stressful and traumatic events, and reach a state of resolution and peace. EFT was developed by Gary Craig, a Stanford-educated engineer. It has been particularly useful for those suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), but has also proven useful for managing pain, phobias, anxiety, illness, and many other conditions.
To use EFT, a person explores the roots of a difficult emotion and verbally expresses the situation in a particular way. The person then taps particular points on the body in a specific sequence while verbalizing a shortened version of the statement they created. It’s not clear exactly why it works, but I suspect that this method helps the brain reconnect the emotional impact of an event with the more analytical present-time mind, which allows the brain to process the experience and move on. I have seen this technique produce remarkable results for many of my clients.
Anyone can learn to do EFT for themselves by visiting the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) website www.emofree.com, and learning the method for free with a manual and/or videos. It doesn’t take long to learn, and can create a significant reduction in difficult emotions and trauma in a very short amount of time.
Eye Movement and Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) Therapy
EMDR therapy is an evidence-based type of psychotherapy, also commonly used to help with PTSD. Bilateral visual or aural stimulation is used to help the brain access it’s built-in methods for adapting to and processing trauma. It can help the person access painful or difficult memories, and then allows them to process them within a therapeutic environment.
EMDR therapy is available by seeing a therapist trained in the modality. To find a trained clinician, you can visit the EMDR Institute website. For further reading about EMDR, check out EMDR: The Breakthrough Eye Movement Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma by the founder of EMDR, Francine Shapiro, PhD.
Self-Hypnosis Recordings
I’m a fan of techniques and methods that my clients can use and access in their own home, at a time and place of their choosing. Self-hypnosis is a way to help the brain access a relaxed and suggestible state, and can double as not only stress relief, but retraining the mindset to a positive and healing state.
People with long-term chronic and complex illness can often become discouraged to the point where they believe they may never get well. This negative thinking pattern can become quite “sticky”, and can become a source of stress in and of itself. There are hundreds of self-hypnosis recordings out there. They are inexpensive, and focus on a wide array of issues, from insomnia, stress, specific illness, headaches, and even childbirth.
I like to suggest clients start with one or two recordings that they like, and consistently listen to them, while falling asleep, or any other time it is safe to do so. It can take some time to rewire the brain, so consistency here is key. As an example, I struggled with insomnia for several years, since my kids were born. I had trained myself to wake up to every little tiny sound at night, and could no longer sleep through the night. I tried a lot of solutions, including supplements, dietary changes, routine changes, and more, and nothing worked.
Last winter, I invested in a sleep hypnosis app, called Sleep Well by Surf City Apps, and began listening to it nightly. It took about 4 months, but slowly, I began to sleep deeply, fall asleep faster, and wake up feeling more refreshed. You can do this too! Get out there and find a recording that is relevant to you, and enjoy.
Meditation
No conversation about retraining the brain would be complete without mentioning meditation. Meditation is consciously focusing on your breathing and thinking patterns with the goal of calming the mind. Here are some of the many benefits of meditation:
- lowers blood pressure
- improves depression and anxiety
- increases self-awareness
- reduces chronic pain
- increases immune function
- improves sleep disturbances and fatigue
- improves gastrointestinal problems, such as IBS
- slows aging
- increases happiness
There are many meditation traditions, and ways to explore. Books, videos, recordings, and classes are all viable ways to access meditation and to give it a try. Here is one of my favorites, The Little Book of Mindfulness by Patricia Collard.
Many people imagine that meditation is a bunch of monks chanting in colorful robes, but it really is a practice of personal awareness that can be adapted to any lifestyle or spiritual tradition. Any activity at all can be an excuse to bring the mind to a meditative state, such as taking a walk, playing music, drinking your morning tea or coffee, or anything else that allows your mind to quiet itself.
I hope that this information is helpful for anyone suffering from a troubled mind.
How do you train your brain for calm? Comment below…
